Marriage Requirements for Holy Cross & St. Henry


Don't know where to start? This is a good spot. It includes requirements that need to be completed in a certain order, rules that need to be followed, and the required fees. We have a hard copy of this in the office if you would like one.


Couple Preparation Requirements

1. Initially meet with the deacon to complete

    the pre-nuptial investigation.


2. Set a date to meet with the priest on a

    social level closer to the wedding.


3. According to Diocesan Policies, the couple

    is not to live together before marriage.


4. The couple should pray together and attend

    mass regularly.


5. Set the date for the wedding with the priest

    or deacon after the pre-nuptial investigation


6. Reserve the Church for the wedding and

    the rehearsal.


7. Register at the parish you will be attending

    as a married couple.


8. Attend an approved Marriage Preparation

    Weekend. Click here to view the different          Marriage Preparation Weekends.

    Click here for the registration form.


9. Turn in the certificate from the weekend

    into the parish office to receive $75.00 off

    your marriage license!


10. Take the Fully Engaged Survey online. 

      The Marriage Coordinator will e-mail this 

      to you.


11. Meet with an assigned sponsor couple to

      go through the workbook and survey

      results. (Up to 5 meetings or 5-10 hours)


12. Ask the parish you were baptized in to

      send a current baptismal certificate to St.        Henry. The certificate should be dated

      within 6 months from your wedding date.


13. Catholics should participate in

      Reconcilation before Matrimony.


14. St. Henry Facilities Use Fee

  • $150 for parishioners

  • $500 for non-parishioners

      Payment can be made at the parish office.


15. Holy Cross Facilities Use Fee

  • $0 for parishioners

  • $100 for non-parishioners


16. The program needs to be approved by the

      deacon or the priest one month before the



17. Purchase a Marriage License at any

      courthouse in a MN County. (It is illegal to

      celebrate a marriage without a marriage

      license.) Apply for it at least one month

      before the wedding. It may be turned into

      the office to to keep in your file at the


Ceremony Requirements

1. Rehearsal is usually the night before the

    wedding. Everyone involved should arrive          at the practice on time.


2. Marriage between two Catholics usually

    has Communion and takes about 1 hour.


3. Without Communion, the ceremony takes

    35 to 45 minutes.


4. For either ceremony, the couple should find

    readers for the bible readings and the

    petitions. (1-3 people) (1-2 if you know a

    deacon will be present to read the petitions) 


5. For Matrimony with Communion, the couple

    should also find 1-3 Gift Bearers, 1-3

    Eucharistic Ministers, and 2 Servers.


6. Please try to limit the wedding party to less

    than 7 couples.


7. Ring Bearers/Flower Girls should be at

    least 4 years old and must be able to walk

    unassisted down the aisle.


8. The music does not change during the

    processional for anyone.


9. An aisle runner is allowed but not required.


10. No pets will be allowed in the wedding.


11. No wagons or signs in the procession.


12. Unity Candles, Unity Cross, and Unity     

      Sand are not allowed.


13. The wording of the marriage vows is a set

      formula in the Catholic Church.


14. Readings for you to choose from are on

      this website. (Hard copies available in the 

      office.) Choosing these before choosing

      music can be helpful.


15. Music should be chosen from the 

      approved list on this site. (Hard copies

      available in the office.)


16. Michael Mettler, the Director of Music and

      Liturgy, can be reached at 218-346-7030.          Music needs to be set up through him.

      He can help you find an accompanist and 

      a singer(s).


17. A musician from St. Henry must be at

      the wedding to at least help with the

      sound system.


18. The Accompanist Fee is $200.


19. The Cantor Fee is $150. 


20. Contact additional singers for fee

      information. You may also contact the

      accompanist and/or cantor if you have

      questions about the fee.


21. Priests and deacons are not allowed to

      celebrate a Marriage outside of a Church

      in the Diocese of St. Cloud. 

Other Concerns

1. Liturgical furnishing are sacred; They

    may not be moved, removed, or replaced.


2. Flowers and plants should be real.


3. Flowers may not be placed on top of the



4. Bubble machines, balloons, and karaoke

    machines may not be used at any time

    before, during or after the wedding.


5. The throwing of rice, birdseed, rose petals,

    potpourri, confetti, etc. is prohibited on

    church property for cleanliness and safety.


6. Food and beverages are not permitted

    within the sacred worship space and

    smoking is prohibited on all church



7. It is important to have people assigned to

    pick up any garbage, decorations, or

    anything left behind.


8. Alcohol is not permitted on church property

    at the time surrounding the wedding

    rehearsal and any time prior to the start of

    the wedding liturgy. Minnesota State Law

    dictates that a marriage could be declared

    null if "a party lacked capacity to consent to

    the marriage at the time the marriage was

    solemnized because of the influence of

    alcohol, drugs, or other incapacitating

    substances," (MN Statue 518.02)


9. If you would like Father to attend your

    meal and reception, he asks that the family

    covers the $150 cost of a substitute priest

    for the evening masses that day in place of

    any gift that the couple would have given          him. He would much rather be able to

    attend your reception than be "paid" for

    celebrating your wedding. 


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